By George Sullivan


You are going to meet all kinds of people in your life. Some people are more challenging than others. Sometimes they have mental health issues, and sometimes they are just that self-serving and thoughtless. Processing thoughts in healthy ways is often difficult for individuals with mental disorders. If you're involved with someone who won't take responsibility for what he does, craves your approval, and lacks empathy, he may be one of the men with borderline personality disorder, or BPD.

Some mentally ill people are highly functioning. They might seem to have everything together until you get to know them well. Other people are at the opposite end of the spectrum. They can't function without their daily medication to keep them going. It is no different for males who have BPD. If you have any hope of understanding how your partner thinks, you need to be aware of the signs of the disease.

One the symptoms of this disease is low self-esteem. You may have noticed this person craving your approval and constant attention. He might try and copy the behavior of the people he surrounds himself with. He does this because he doesn't trust himself. Even though he doesn't act like it, your partner is probably feeling inferior to everybody else. Rather than think for himself, he will do and say things that he believes other people will admire him for.

People who have BPD are not empathetic. They aren't concerned about what other people want or need. These individuals don't have any sense of how the things they do affect the people around them. Their sense of awareness isn't fully developed. It is not a coincidence that they have trouble maintaining healthy relationships.

Many BPD sufferers repeatedly fall into negative and destructive relationships. Physical and mental abuse is not unusual. Borderlines can be needy and mistrusting to an excessive degree. They may swing from overly close to completely distant and uninvolved. It's not only romantic partners that experience this phenomenon. Friends and family are the victims of it too.

If your partner has BPD excessive anxiety will be a problem for him. This goes beyond the normal feelings on anxiousness that most people experience on occasion. He might become hypersensitive to the way others act when they are around him. It's easy for him to feel threatened and lash out because of how badly he wants to be accepted.

Being abandoned terrifies BPD sufferers. Because of this they tend to become excessively paranoid and jealous. They will accuse their partners of behaviors that have no basis in reality. Borderlines have been known to stalk partners and monitor when partners come and go. It is not unusual for them to make irrational demands and then threaten to kill themselves when the partner refuses to comply.

Mood swings and uncontrollable anger are two major signs of this disease. BPD sufferers blame everyone else for their shortcomings. They can be impulsive and prone to risky behaviors. Ten percent of people diagnosed with the disorder commit suicide. That's four hundred times higher than the national average.




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