How To Handle Raw Emotions

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By Kathleen Myers


Many, if not all, of us have been faced with a challenging situation that appeared to drive us on the edge. Some problems may be solved easily but many more others require help especially if they threaten to severe our treasured relationships. We should not let raw emotions have the better of us. Rather we should recognize these strong thoughts and feelings and take steps towards normalizing them.

Emotional flooding is a term that is commonly used by psychologists. This term attempts to describe a situation in which one is bombarded by deep emotions and thoughts suddenly just like a flood. There is usually a single predominating feeling in the midst of all this. Such may be depression, hatred, sadness or anxiety. Commonly, the predominant emotion may change over time depending on the prevailing circumstances.

The triggers of deep emotions are varied. They include, for instance, the recalling of past events, the thought or present stressors and worrying about a difficult future. When one gets lost in these thoughts, they recreate traumatic experiences over and over a situation that only makes things worse. One needs to learn how to adapt on how to deflect such negative thoughts.

Controlled behaviour is arguably the most accessible tool that one can use when dealing with unpleasant emotions. Deep belly breathing has been shown to help with relaxation and minimization of psychological stress. The benefits of this kind of breathing come in small incremental steps. However, it is important to note that emotional flooding may recur thus its important to continue practising deep breathing on a regular basis.

It is important that one understands the exact feelings that they have been confronted with even as they strive to deal with them. Emotional flooding often brings with it a lot of confusion and hence soul searching is needed to identify the exact feelings involved. Acknowledging that there is a problem is the first step in getting a solution. If this is not done, it will result in closed emotional loop likely to make things worse.

Turning back to your support system is also very helpful. Many people will only let their loved ones know of their troubles when things get out of hand. This should not be the case. Rather, getting in touch with your loved ones early enough will help control form of the negative thoughts and feelings right from the start. Trusted colleagues, friends, relatives and religious leaders are all potential sources of much needed support.

Taking a break is necessary for anyone in emotional turmoil. It is important you direct all your efforts to solving this issue so that your mind can be freed to continue with your regular routine. This means that one needs to literally spend some time in a quiet place and contemplate the next decision carefully having considered their situation. In many cases, you will be surprised to learn that you may have overreacted unnecessarily.

Handling deep emotions is not always easy. Very deep thoughts and feelings often isolate us from everyone else which makes it even more difficult to handle them. The first step when one finds themselves in such a situation is to understand the type of emotion that they are faced with. This will then inform their next course of action. Sharing your feelings with those who matter makes everything a lot easier.




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