By Mark Young


The feeling that you have fallen in love is the best thing to experience. This period brings a lot of joy and happiness knowing that someone else is thinking about you. The feelings are so strong that in some cases, you start to feel insecure asking whether that person is cheating on you or seeing another person. Stop hurting yourself by dealing with insecurities in a relationship using the following tips.

A good way to deal with insecurity in a relationship is to avoid reading the mind of your lover. The main problem arising in any relation comes as a result of the social anxiety and not communicating well. The two combined makes your partner start reading what is in your mind. The assumption that what you are thinking exists becomes a concern.

A person might say something, but you find yourself assuming that they mean something else. Sometimes, your partner says nothing at all and you assume that their silence comes with a hidden agenda. Avoid making your loved one to guess what is in your mind. Make sure you are communicating effectively every time.

Today, people want to be in a perfect relationship, yet there is nothing of that sort. You will never find someone perfect. Many people have not found the dream partner because they are waiting for someone perfect. It takes ages to try to know the perfect person and in real sense, you will never find one. Those who have dated in the past will give you advice to stop looking for perfection and you can work things out after finding someone you are comfortable with.

You can deal with insecurity if you stop judging the current relation based on the past ones. Try to think the many times you have judged a person negatively because you thought of your past lover who treated you like trash. To overcome this, stop judging your current partner based on the behavior of the past. This will not stop the wound, and you only need to focus on the present and avoid the stress of wait and see game.

Relationships go sour because a person is inventing issues that in truth do not exist. An insecure person will believe in something and then accuse the other of it. Predicting anxiously makes us deceive ourselves and this brings negativity and hallucinations. To become secure and happy, stop inventing issues and believing in them as this will bring suffering and sticking in a relation that is not working.

An issue that contributes to people becoming insecure is when they start focusing on negative things only instead of the positives. Today, you will not find a perfect person and relationship. The start is always good and you see the other person as perfect but in the long run, things start to be seen. The truth is imperfection is there and it helps us work our best to feel comfortable with what we do not agree.

People can deal with the insecurities by depending on themselves and working it out. You know yourself better than others, and the solution lies in your heart. The truth is whenever your house is in problems you need to find ways of solving the matter before asking your neighbors to give solutions. Dealing with insecurity brings strength and cuts on stress.




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